The culprit behind my problems!

It will rob you and highjack your soul if you allow it to!

What am I speaking about?


For some reason, I believed that people would look up Fibromyalgia instead of being so clueless about it. I mean it is not exactly an illness that is rare. Its rampant within the community. There are many who become overwhelmed by the mention of the name, Fibromyalgia. Fibra- ma-what? I am often asked. Some people can’t even pronounce the illness let alone bother to find out more about it. It is too complicated for certain minds to comprehend, thus my need to speak about it before I proceed to other blogs of substance which I have in mind.

I have been inundated with questions about this syndrome or Auto Immune Illness as I phrase it to many. Well let me tell you this much, it is no joke, living with Fibromyalgia. It has robbed me of a lot of things, particularly my desire to be a hot shot advocate or lawyer. So naturally, we have a very acrimonious relationship, me and Fibromyalgia.

The Beginning

Before I describe the symptoms to you, I will tell you how it begins. While some of you are just curious to know more about it, I am writing this article because I would not wish it upon my worst enemy. Seeing that my blog is about self-development and lifestyle I will tell you about ways in which you can manage this illness and ways to prevent it from happening to you.

If you want to lead a life that is fruitful and healthy then you need to be careful about how you handle stress. If you don’t pull up your socks right now and become mindful of your health, trust me, nobody is exempt from developing dreaded diseases such as Fibromyalgia and Cancer. There is a direct link between stress and illness and neglect of your body and mind.

While I love to be healthy, it is very often that my personal life often stands in the way of me being my best healthy self. However, the key to success is standing up and fighting and not to give up or back down. I often battle with my desires to just do what I feel like and eat how I want. I must admit though, that whenever I eat unhealthily it affects my health tremendously.

So here are the initial symptoms that slowly began wreaking havoc in my life:

  1. Pain in my shoulders and neck
  2. Loss of memory
  3. Brain fog
  4. Constantly being tired

To be quite honest, these symptoms began during the last year of my marriage, the year we had decided to try one last time. The cherry on the top was the court case which I had, which came after my actual divorce. This court case was not between me and my ex-husband. By this time already we were well adjusted to the situation and had no issues with each other. To this day, we remain good friends and support each other through our parenting journey. He has been my constant support and strength.

Stress is your worst enemy

Going back to my point on stress, I will reiterate that it is the biggest cause of every health concern you may have, trust me on this one.

If you are one of those people who is constantly stressed out about the littlest of things then you need to take heed. Try to improve your life, and become aware of and mindful of your stress levels as part of your self-development.

2011/2012 my most stressful year

Going back to that year 2011, was possibly the worst year of my life. At first, I pegged it down to temporary insomnia, due to many things I needed to think about. I was so unhappy back then and leading the most unauthentic life in the whole world. I was basically living for other people and not for myself.

Needless to say, this is what pushed my body and my well being to the brink of a complete breakdown and reaching rock bottom. I am not saying that I did not love my ex-husband, crazily and passionately and he loved me just as much, but there were things beyond my control and eventually, I had to just let go, and he gave in as well.

That is when Fibromyalgia decided to attack me full force. I recall many times falling off to sleep soundly in my car when I would go to fetch my son from school. I at first thought perhaps I was pregnant again? It would have been the biggest blessing if I was and if it wasn’t Fibromyalgia finding its way into my body.


I only got diagnosed with Fibromyalgia three years after the illness was full blown and swimming through my veins. Fibromyalgia is difficult to diagnose. I used to visit the doctor so often complaining of my hands, my back, my feet, my ribs and often suffering from insomnia and being constantly exhausted. When my G.P mentioned Fibromyalgia, I assumed it was something like arthritis. I didn’t quite understand what he meant. I could not even pronounce the word Fibromyalgia and by the time I got home, even forgot what he called this syndrome or illness.

So, what exactly is Fibromyalgia you ask?

In a nutshell, fibromyalgia is an autoimmune syndrome which affects your muscles and joints and your cognitive abilities, your sleeping patterns as well as your bowel movements etc.


  1. Constant burning and severe pain in your muscles
  2. Memory loss
  3. Brain fog
  4. Irritable bowel syndrome
  5. Heightened senses such as smell and sensitivity to loud noises
  6. Severe sensitivity to the emotions of others
  7. Anxiety
  8. Depression due to the struggle and pain from illness

Is there a cure for Fibromyalgia?

No, but if you are totally and completely stress-free for a long period of time, if you manage your symptoms through exercise and healthy eating habits, practice meditation and seek therapy for anxiety it can definitely be minimized to the point of feeling as if it has disappeared altogether. However, in theory, it is so easy to speak about the ways you can manage this illness. In practice, it is not always easy.


 I am sure you are aware that, the life of a single mother is never stress-free, so avoiding stress is not possible. However, effectively managing the way you deal with stress is the way to tackle fibromyalgia. Money is another major issue as there are specific vitamins that are required and a must for this illness in addition to medication. Constant massages and cupping, as well as acupuncture, are all holistic ways to treat Fibromyalgia. As any single mother will tell you, the one thing, we don’t have enough of is money. Medical aid and medical insurance does not recognize Fibromyalgia as an illness and therefore does not pay for chronic pain medication.

Vitamins and Supplements

I read somewhere, in a very poorly researched article that vitamins are not required to lead a healthy life and that all one needs is to eat healthily and exercise. I was overwhelmed with anger at the stupidity of the writer. We live in a world where there are constant pollution and stress and even if we ate right and avoided unhealthy food and exercised it would not be enough for our bodies. Vitamins are not just for Fibromyalgia sufferers.

 The fact remains that we don’t always eat organic and our food these days are very polluted by chemicals. Naturally, our body only produces a limit of specific vitamins etc. for our bodies to function well. Stress limits tend to use up whatever our body produces leaving us in a deficit when it comes to specific vitamins for our core to function. Thus, certain supplements and vitamins are vital and essential to assist us along the way, especially when we get older. With or without Fibromyalgia Vitamins and supplements are a must have in every home!

How to prevent Fibromyalgia?

  1. Change your mindset and think positive, somehow.
  2. Manage your stress through outlets such as exercise, therapy, time management, constant breaks, and meditation.
  3. Watch what you consume.
  4. Make sure you take supplements such as Vitamin B, Vitamin D, Omega 3,6,9, Magnesium, Glutathione and most importantly calcium.

Many people will tell you that Fibromyalgia is brought on by severe trauma and stress as there is a direct correlation between the chemicals of the brain, your central nervous system, and the spine and the way it affects your pain threshold. If you want to avoid Fibromyalgia you have to work on your self-development by developing skills to enhance your ability to cope in this harsh world, we live in. While you cannot avoid stress, stress is the number one culprit which creates needless diseases and illnesses in your body.

For further information on fibromyalgia, please visit these sites:

If you have been affected by fibromyalgia please feel free to comment and engage with readers. You never know who you may be helping by speaking about your illness. Provide the health solutions that have worked for you.


shamzam0825 View All →

Hello and welcome to my world,

I am a single Muslim mom. I was born and raised in the heart of Africa.
With a healthy dose of my lifelong experiences to share, I will enlighten you on personal development and lifestyle suggestions.
Allow me to be your companion on this journey called life.

2 Comments Leave a comment

  1. Great read! I struggle with depression and migraines along with the other Fibro stuff. My husband is my biggest support. He really gets it and that is a comfort because others really do not understand. Thanks for the post!


    • It is not easy but if you have the right support system, you can get through fibromyalgia. I strongly believe that it is an illness that can be managed. I am glad that you enjoyed this post! Thank you for following!

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